Micro Dose #6: Conflict Tolerance Continuum
The “Conflict Tolerance Continuum” on one end of the continuum we have folks that are “Conflict Comfortable”, they recognize that conflict is often part of even a healthy relationship and they do not feel threatened, they do not feel like the relationship is threatened when there’s conflict. On the other end of the continuum you have “Conflict Avoidant” folks, those folks put a lot of energy into anticipating what might cause conflict, and getting rid of it, and then when conflict does come, they feel like the relationship is threatened, and they sometimes will even apologize for things they didn’t even think they did, just to get over the conflict. The thing to remember is if you’re a conflict comfortable person in a relationship with a conflict avoidant person you are naturally, without even trying, in the power position. So you have to make sure you understand how that affects the dynamics of the relationship, and make sure it doesn’t become a problem. Strong happy couples learn these differences, and use differences to strengthen their relationship.